Hi. I’m Aggie*
If you’re reading this blog archive (published 2012-15), you’re probably trying to read between the lines, to figure out how relevant my perspective is to your life and your world. Here’s some context you might find helpful.
For this blog, perhaps the most important bit of context is that I’ve been polyamorous since about 2001, or all my life, depending on how you count.
Also, I’m a middle-aged straight, white, cisgendered, able-bodied, tech savvy, mentally and physically healthy, active, college-educated, neurotypical, divorced, atheist woman. I’m child-free by choice. I’m very sex positive but not especially kinky. I’m a longtime self-employed professional, fully self-supporting. I’m not rich, but I do OK. So in the social pecking order I’m a somewhat average mix of privilege and disadvantage, I guess. At least in the context of the U.S.
I’m highly social and extroverted. I have many close friends, a wide-ranging network of colleagues and acquaintances, and mostly strong and positive connections with my immediate and extended family. From time to time I have romantic/sexual partners – sometimes a few concurrently, sometimes none, sometimes one. Regardless of my intimate relationship status, I consider myself solo poly. It’s an identity as well as a practice, for me.
I’ve worked hard for many years to consciously craft a life, career, and relationships that suit me.
I value my interdependence as much as my independence. So even when I’m in a committed intimate relationship, I still consider myself a free agent because I am always making my own choices, for better or worse. With the approval of my feline overlords, of course.
I grew up on the east coast, which explains my occasional snarkiness. I now live in a picturesque small western city populated mostly by white professionals, college students, and triathletes. I’m not crazy about the dearth of diversity and sarcasm here, but everyplace has tradeoffs.
Like any point of view, I realize this self-description is both a window and a set of blinders. All of my self-applied labels carry some baggage. I’ll try to be clear about that, with myself and with you. Feel free to call me on my inevitable crap. Just be civil about it.
When reading this blog, keep in mind that your mileage will certainly vary.
- Aggie Sez is a pen name I used when I was writing this blog, to separate out the search traffic from my other writing work. Actually, I’m journalist and author Amy Gahran. But Aggie has become a nickname, I answer to either.