Category Archives: Observations

  1. Goals for intimate relationships: Focus on what really makes love work for you


    September 4, 2014 by aggiesez

    Whether we admit it or not, we all have relationships for reasons — including our most intimate relationships. We hope …
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  2. Plan A: Balancing commitment and flexibility in solo polyamory


    July 3, 2014 by aggiesez

    When people consider what qualifies an intimate relationship as “serious” or “significant,” one of the most common themes is “commitment.” …
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  3. Balancing autonomy and connection in solo polyamory


    June 10, 2014 by aggiesez

    Today in the Singleish and Solo Polyamory Facebook group, I commented on a thread exploring the different ways that solo …
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  4. Does your relationship roadmap match your destination? (Guest post)


    June 8, 2014 by aggiesez

    Guest post by Mitchell G The nice thing about traditional relationship models (such as the standard two-person exclusive relationship escalator) is …
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  5. Autonomy is important, but it’s not all there is to solo polyamory


    October 31, 2013 by aggiesez

    This week the popular Kimchi Cuddles poly webcomic posted a followup cartoon on solo polyamory. (Here’s the first one.) It’s …
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  6. Kimchi Cuddles webcomic on solo polyamory


    October 26, 2013 by aggiesez

    Way cool! Today, the topic on Kimchi Cuddles (a popular webcomic on polyamory) is solo polyamory! LOL, I’ve heard similar …
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  7. The Pirates at the Top of the Escalator


    October 10, 2013 by aggiesez

    Originally posted on The Notes Which Do Not Fit:
    Ever since I have been reading fiction, I had always be struck by how many stories…

  8. What’s the point of being “primary?”


    September 3, 2013 by aggiesez

    Today a pretty popular webcomic about polyamory, Kimchi Cuddles, addressed the topic of being poly without a primary. A common …
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  9. The trouble with solo polyamory, in a word or two (Guest post by Lo Redkoan)

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    August 24, 2013 by aggiesez

    At my best, I sometimes say, “Well, if I gotta be alone at least I’m a helluva guy.” The problem …
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  10. When fluid-bonded sex carries emotional significance: Guest post by Master SoNSo


    August 1, 2013 by aggiesez

    EDITOR’S NOTE: I’ve written a fair amount about safer sex vs. “fluid bonding” (barrier-free sex) — particularly, the reasoning behind …
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