Solo polyamory at Poly Living 2013, Philadelphia2
October 16, 2012 by aggiesez
I just learned last night that I will be running a session on solo polyamory at the Poly Living conference, Feb 8-10, 2013 in Philadelphia.
I’m really excited about this opportunity, and am grateful to the nonprofit Loving More for including this important and under-discussed topic in the conference program.
What should my session cover?
Are you a solo poly person? Do you date or have relationships with solo poly people? Do you want to know how polyamory looks from the solo viewpoint, or how to treat solo partners well?
Please comment below (or e-mail me) to tell me what you’d like to hear covered in my session.
Also, I’m planning to launch a couple of surveys over the next couple of months. The first will be for solo poly/open people, to gather some data on their demographics and experience. The second will be for poly/open primary couples, to gather data on their perspectives and experiences about having relationships with additional partners who don’t have their own primary partner. Stay tuned on that.
Many of the poly people to whom I explain solo poly don’t quite understand the concept or can’t wrap their heads around why anyone would not want a primary, so that might be a good place to start. I thought you brought up some good points in another post about being very independent and having a very full life, and I feel the same way.
Thanks! Yes, I should do a post on “What’s great about being solo & poly.” I’ve also known people who have a hard time believing that someone (poly or otherwise) might not want a primary partner — or worse, they suspect me of having a hidden (or perhaps subconscious) agenda to eventually “snag” a primary (perhaps by “stealing” theirs).