Category Archives: Lessons

  1. Due diligence for non-primary partners, in a convenient card!


    April 11, 2013 by aggiesez

    Today the Goddess of Java (a.k.a Polyamorous Misanthrope) offered a must-read post, Don’t treat people like things, which was sparked …
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  2. On staying afloat, in and out of relationships


    April 9, 2013 by aggiesez

    When people discuss whether a given relationship, or type of relationship, “works” or how much it “matters,” typically they start …
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  3. The grownup test: Clear, frank communication and negotiation


    March 29, 2013 by aggiesez

    I flunked telepathy. In relationships, I function extremely well with information — and quite poorly without it. Perhaps the most …
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  4. Polyamory is hard: Guest post from a solo poly man


    March 27, 2013 by aggiesez

    Introduction by Aggie Sez: I’m embarrassed to have procrastinated for a month or so on publishing this excellent guest post …
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  5. Polyamory Weekly interviews Lily Lloyd on what poly can learn from kink


    January 23, 2013 by aggiesez

    Kinky people have much to teach the world about relationships — all kinds of relationships, including polyamorous and non-kinky ones. …
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  6. Clueing in poly newbies about solo poly people


    January 8, 2013 by aggiesez

    I regularly attend the weekly meetups of my local poly community. Here, the first meetup of the month is always …
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  7. A solo poly experience of couple privilege: Love and Lost’s story


    January 2, 2013 by aggiesez

    The New Year is an opportunity not just to reflect and look forward, but also to recognize the way things …
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  8. What’s wonderful about being polyamorous, solo and single, part 2


    December 17, 2012 by aggiesez

    This cracks me up: When I mention to someone who’s not polyamorous that I am poly, they often say something …
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  9. What’s wonderful about being solo, polyamorous, and single, part 1


    December 17, 2012 by aggiesez

    Taking stock at the end of 2012, I’ve realized there are many things wonderful about being solo, and polyamorous, and …
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  10. Non-primary partners tell: How to treat us well


    November 27, 2012 by aggiesez

    SPECIAL NOTE: This blog post touches on one of many themes I’ll be covering in my forthcoming crowdsourced book on …
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