Category Archives: Explanations and definitions
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The grownup test: Clear, frank communication and negotiation
3March 29, 2013 by aggiesez
I flunked telepathy. In relationships, I function extremely well with information — and quite poorly without it. Perhaps the most …
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Couple privilege: Having it doesn’t necessarily make you an asshole (but it might)
21February 5, 2013 by aggiesez
It’s surprisingly hard to talk about any kind of privilege — and that’s no accident. Privilege lives in the background. …
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Couple privilege: Your thoughts?
40December 3, 2012 by aggiesez
No matter how egalitarian you are, privilege exists. We’re all soaking in it — even in the polyamorous/open relationship community. …
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Why I say “non-primary,” not “secondary”
12November 30, 2012 by aggiesez
I’m a writer and editor by profession, so I choose words carefully. In this blog I deliberately refer to “non-primary” …
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Riding the relationship escalator (or not)
165November 29, 2012 by aggiesez
UPDATE FEBRUARY 2017: I’ve just published a new book based on this unexpectedly popular post. Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: …
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Solo v. single: On my terms
5September 26, 2012 by aggiesez
At this point I’m both “solo” and “single” — but mostly solo. What the hell does that mean?…
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What’s a primary partner? On my terms
29September 20, 2012 by aggiesez
Polyamory definitely has a language problem. So I’ll start defining how I’m using certain terms in this blog… One of …
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Single AND polyamorous? Why yes!
3August 20, 2012 by aggiesez
My current relationship status (or lack thereof) baffles some people. How can I be poly when I’m not seeing anyone? …
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